Suck it up

“If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you.” – Fred DeVito

What’s the point of doing something if it’s easy?  So many people take the easy road… hit that imaginary “Easy Button”  But what do you really get out of it?  A quick fix, an easy ride, and a poor sense of self and reality.  Suck it up!

So many people are challenge adverse.  

Some may see it as an embarrassment; embarrassing that they aren’t as good as the other person; I even did for a long time.  If I wasn’t as good as someone else doing a workout – I was embarrassed.  Pissed because I’m super competitive, but also embarrassed.  Embarrassed, I couldn’t hit that box jump or do as many pull ups.  Some people shy away from challenges because they want to play the “fair” card.  Imagine the worst annoying voice… “but it’s not fair…” and worse some people claim challenges are only there because other people “just don’t like me.”  Oh come on!  Suck it up!

It’s time for us to put our easy buttons down, stop running from hard work – be it in the gym, at the office or at home. And get after it – do work!  

I’ve released the sense of embarrassment I once felt when I wasn’t as good.  That emotion kept me from reality and kept me from swallowing my pride and going after the hard work.  It gave me a false sense of self and hindered my growth.

Will you really be proud of yourself five years down the road if you’ve gotten by with what’s easy, with doing only what’s the bare minimum?  Even if you work your ass off and don’t accomplish everything at least you know you’ve really put effort out there.

if it doesnt challenge you


Raising daughters

On a scale of 1-10 of “Crazy Mom” I’d say I’m a solid 8… 8.5 (maybe 11.3 at times).  Most of my craziness comes late at night on very little sleep when I think something is wrong and the girls will NEVER sleep (or eat, or stop doing x.y.z EVER again).  I do have a flare for the dramatic, especially at 2:30 am.  

I don’t let myself get bent out of shape about germs, having the newest hot toy or piece of baby equipment and am pretty chill if the girls topple over or get a little scrape.

However, what I do go off the richter scale about is talk about and around the girls about their shape, size, and future.  I have a short fuse for langue about their body types… COME ON people… they are 7 months old!!  Their body type is … baby!  I know it is only natural to compare the two girls.  “Oh she is the chill on and she is the fiesty one.”  “She’s so much bigger than her sister.” “She’s your eater”  Enough!

I know with my background and constant challenging relationship with food and body this is a hot button for me. But in an effort to prevent any negative feelings from my girls to their own bodies I want to eliminate these comments and ways of thinking.  ALL of us are full of potential and possibility and opportunity.  I pledge to be a positive example of health, strength, and positive thoughts and actions.  

I recently read a beautiful and spot on post by  of  She discusses how to talk to your daughter about her body.  Her message is… DON’T.  Encourage her to play sports because it builds leadership and friendship, talk about how happy she looks and how healthy and strong she is, BE the positive and healthy example.  Please read her whole post here.

Sarah’s final words brought tears to my eyes.  They are true for our daughters and ourselves.  Please be kind to yourself and remember:

“… the best thing (you) can do with (your) body is to use it to mobilize (your) beautiful soul.”

TRUE Strength


Avoid murkiness

Avoid murkiness…

By becoming clear, you’l also become strong.  When your intentions, thoughts and words are aligned, you’ll get the point across about what you want.

Basically… wipe the shit away and get down to what your heart is telling you… express yourself… be true… and your strength will come through.